Sunday, November 29, 2009
PM (Parents'Meet) Summary!
Overall, i really thank God for the day well spent with his family and also for His favor. *Phew!* The first time jittery is over! We (Jon & I) has been preparing for this day actually eversince June. The day didn't happen till now. I was glad that its now though.
The bus came super late and went super slow that day. I was 15 minutes late. Poor Jon. He was so anxious that I was late as his family was all waiting at the coffee shop to eat lunch together. They didn't know I was coming. They didn't know Jon has a girlfriend actually. Jon didn't want to share with them and meant it for a surprise introduction for his family. He is FULL of tricks. ;) He also said that he wanted to honor me by formally introducing to his immediate family members. I mean, the lunch gathering is organised mainly for this purpose. I was honored. :) Anyway, with that, i was also nervous. Thoughts ran through my mind. "What if they didn't like me?"
Surprisingly, the anxiety subsided that day. I was completely at ease, feeling like any normal day. However, when i see Jon, he was quite anxious lar. (Maybe he might not say or feel so) His family is very friendly and nice. They welcomed me and I blended in quite alright. *Phew* Jon's dad is a exactly like Jon in his speech and mannerism minusing the fun-lovingness. He is very godly and encouraging. :) I like Jon's granny :) I guess because Jon is close to her. Well, with my work at Yorkhill, i tend to feel comfortable and drawn to elderly. She is very nice to me.
We went to the Science Centre after that.....
Group shot
Jon and his love ones
Me and Jon (quite unclear hor..)
Well..those are the serious shots. :) Jon and I toured Science centre and we were like kids again!! Having fun.. :DIntroducing the latest fashion walkway Stars..Mr Jon and Dawn!! Haha..look like some kind of fashion magazine?!
Okie. Jon love this! He was dancing infront of the mirror with his "fat" butt shaking. He love looking fat..haha..this mirror gains extra pounds for us.
We are at cartoon world...
This is suppose to turn our faces to Mosaic..but it was stuck! Might as well play with it.
Introducing the Monster-Jon!! This is not camera effects!! But Jon in REAL action! Thats why he bites me all the time! *OUCH!*
Overall, it was great! I felt that our relationship has gone to another level :) I really thank God for His hand upon our relationship..regardless of good or bad stuff. What matters is us holding hands, walking with God, following Him. Stay tune for our journey with God :)
i'm leaving at ;
6:20 PM;
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Monday, November 23, 2009
* CoNgRaDs to JonJonWee *
&
tHaNksGivInGs to God
After months of praying, Jon called me yesterday afternoon "Dear, I have a goodnews for you!" I was deeply curious and asked him "what is it?" My dear made me guess 3 times and still not tell me until night.
After I heard the news, it was then clearer to us about the Lord's calling and purpose in this season of Jon's life. We praise and give thanks to God for His will. As we prayed through before the news came, both of us prayed for His will to be done. For me, I surrendered to the Lord and only want His will to be done. Its the safest thing to have. :) I shall not tell you what this is for now..Keep guessing!!
As the year nears to an end, many good news and confirmation came from the Lord for me. I felt that the Lord is encouraging me, comforting me after a a few months of dryness and fatigue. Finally, I have a breakthrough and it seems like a real one. I am filled with faith and joy again. Well, when it comes to times where you are simply tired to believe, filled with doubts and fears or that, you feel that God's presence is just not there for you..continue to press on in believing Him and don't give up. Light will soon come and you will feel truly renewed amazingly :)
I prayed for the Lord to confirm the time that we could settle down..and confirmations & encouragment from the Lord just flood in. Its truly uplifting and exciting!! :D Its great to have the Lord in our relationship. Everything is a great adventure and journey. :)
Thank you Jon for your wonderful leadership, encouragment, care&love, gentleness and yes, your crappyness ;)
I am so attracted by you, you know? ;) Jia you!!
i'm leaving at ;
8:26 PM;
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Sunday, November 22, 2009
*Meet the Parents' Day!*
Boy! It feels alittle excited and also, a little different from the past. I am meeting Jon's parents formally in 4 days time! All these while, his family does not know that he has a girlfriend. And, our relationship has been "underwraps". Our discussion was that we should be prepared and ready to meet each others' parents and for Jon, he wants to surprise his family by bringing me along on their family outings. *Haiz* that makes it quite jittery for me. That is my Jon..full of tricks and surprises!
Jon and I have been dating since February'09. All these while as we dated, we never met any of his family member at any place! Even if we hang out at the clubhouse of his residence, we never chanced upon any of his family. I find that rather strange but also a relief for me.
Not till last Thursday, we bumped into his sister at woodlands and in the same day, bumped into his parents too! That is super-duper..divine?! The good thing is his parents didn't really see me at all. It was quite dark and we are walking quite far apart each other that time. *Phew* Why do i feel like we are in a underground relationship?
My parents, on the other hand, are aware of our relationship. I couldn't hide from them lah (esp my mother) But, they haven't met him yet. Jon is pretty good. He bought food for my parents before meeting them. *So smart!* So, i guess when I am ready, these things can happen. I have to be ready! Meeting parents is a big thing!
Jon don't seem to be nervous. He is more happy that I am alittle jittery about the whole thing..(you are laughing all the way ya?)
Pray that everything will be favorable and good :)
Boy! It feels alittle excited and also, a little different from the past. I am meeting Jon's parents formally in 4 days time! All these while, his family does not know that he has a girlfriend. And, our relationship has been "underwraps". Our discussion was that we should be prepared and ready to meet each others' parents and for Jon, he wants to surprise his family by bringing me along on their family outings. *Haiz* that makes it quite jittery for me. That is my Jon..full of tricks and surprises!
Jon and I have been dating since February'09. All these while as we dated, we never met any of his family member at any place! Even if we hang out at the clubhouse of his residence, we never chanced upon any of his family. I find that rather strange but also a relief for me.
Not till last Thursday, we bumped into his sister at woodlands and in the same day, bumped into his parents too! That is super-duper..divine?! The good thing is his parents didn't really see me at all. It was quite dark and we are walking quite far apart each other that time. *Phew* Why do i feel like we are in a underground relationship?
My parents, on the other hand, are aware of our relationship. I couldn't hide from them lah (esp my mother) But, they haven't met him yet. Jon is pretty good. He bought food for my parents before meeting them. *So smart!* So, i guess when I am ready, these things can happen. I have to be ready! Meeting parents is a big thing!
Jon don't seem to be nervous. He is more happy that I am alittle jittery about the whole thing..(you are laughing all the way ya?)
Pray that everything will be favorable and good :)
i'm leaving at ;
10:04 PM;
10:04 PM;
Monday, November 16, 2009
What do couples who describe their marriages as spectacular do differently than those who describe their marriages as simply so-so? The differences are quite small, actually. "When we look at happy couples, we see that great marriages are not the result of hours of hard work," says relationship researcher Terri L. Orbuch, Ph.D., who followed 373 couples for over 22 years as part of a marriage study funded by the National Institutes of Health. "It's small changes in behavior and attitude that can transform your relationship." In her new book, 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great, Orbuch shares the steps you can take to marital greatness.
Understand Each Other's Needs
"The main reason marriages break up is not conflict, communication problems, or sexual incompatibility," Orbuch says. "It's frustration — the day-to-day disappointment of the gap between what you expect and how your partner acts — that is most damaging." To diffuse that frustration, share your expectations with each other. Maybe you desire more affection and he craves more relaxed couple time. "And be sure to check in with your partner once a year, as added pressures or life changes can create new expectations," Orbuch says.
Show Him Some Love
Husbands whose wives give them affirmation — those words and gestures that show they are appreciated, respected, and loved — are twice as likely to describe themselves as happily married. And men may need affirmation more than women, Orbuch's research showed. "Women are constantly receiving flattery from friends and even strangers who say, 'Love your outfit!'" she says. "But men don't get that recognition." Can you imagine a passerby stopping your husband to compliment him on how well his tie matches his shirt? Not gonna happen — which is why men rely on that attention from their wives. Luckily, there's another payoff to your flattery: He's more likely to return those loving deeds back to you.
Take 10
A weekly date night is always recommended as a way to reconnect, but sometimes all you need is a few minutes. "I call this the 10-Minute Rule: Take 10 minutes a day to talk about anything — except for kids, responsibilities, or chores," Orbuch says. Throw out Mom's old advice about how an air of mystery keeps the flame alive: Orbuch's research showed that 98 percent of happy couples say they intimately understand their partners. And knowing your spouse intimately isn't always about engaging in heavy conversations: Anything that helps you learn something new will bring you closer, Orbuch says. You can bond over why you think your dog is the smartest one on your block or which superpower you'd want most. You'll get to know each other's inner world and strengthen your bond of happiness.
Focus on the Good
The best way to make your relationship better is to work at fixing what's wrong, right? Nope. "The most effective way to boost fun and passion is to add positive elements to your marriage," Orbuch says. "That positive energy makes us feel good and motivates us to keep going in that direction." This doesn't mean that you can't feel — or talk about — anything negative, but "pretend you are weighing your interactions on a scale," she says. "If you want a happier relationship, the positive side needs to far outweigh the bad." The more you honor the love and joy in your bond, the sooner you'll transform your marriage into one that is truly great.
i'm leaving at ;
1:59 AM;
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Sunday, November 15, 2009
Working hard for us.
Jon, you look so good in this pic..so cool :)
Dear called me yesterday and shared with me on a story that really encourages me. I was faithless before, thinking of the negative and not dreaming of the impossible. But, after his encouraging testimony, I am really encouraged again especially to believe in my God that provides.
Jon, you look so good in this pic..so cool :)Dear called me yesterday and shared with me on a story that really encourages me. I was faithless before, thinking of the negative and not dreaming of the impossible. But, after his encouraging testimony, I am really encouraged again especially to believe in my God that provides.
A pastor came to Singapore from Taiwan to serve God. Back in Taiwan, he has no problems financially but as Singapore works very differently, he has financial difficulties to an extend of a place to stay.
Once, he saw a place and remarked that it was nice. He prayed and asked God to provide a similar place for him to stay, and the Lord provided the same place that he remarked that was nice! It was for rent! And when he moved in, he needed furniture. The Lord also provided furniture for him through people blessing him!
Jon and I have been praying through regarding our desire to settle down. We are serious about praying through it :) Time and time again, I just felt the Lord prompting us to trust Him in His marvellous ways.
Jon has been working hard in his work, wanting to save up for our future. It pains me to see him so tired and sometimes, sleeping so late. I pray that I would be of support to him. To love and understand him. Also, to take care of him. I can be unreasonable and throw alittle tantrum here and there. But, whenever i settle down, I just kept reminding myself that if I say I love Jon, I must not "love" him with only words but actions.
Indeed because...
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
"Dear God, I pray that you will heal Jon of his stomach probs. I pray that You will protect him from viruses, fatigue and dullness. I pray that he will not work so hard that he becomes unfocus but he will be strengthened in focus, in wisdom to know and do what You have called him to do. I pray that You will open the right doors for Him as He desires to earn extra cash. I pray that You will grant him wisdom to manage his time well too.
Lord, help me to love, support and care for him and his family. I pray that I will be patient, gentle, sweet, loving, long-suffering and kind in my actions and words, that I will not be selfish but will think for him first always in whatever i say or do. I pray that my actions will honor You as You are ultimately our First in the relationship.
I trust that You will fulfill our desires in 2 years time. I am dreaming for that special night. "
In the Name of Lord Jesus' Amen
i'm leaving at ;
7:47 PM;
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Thursday, November 5, 2009
Conflicts In A Relationship
Often than not we face conflicts in our relationships with our partners because we feel hurt.
Today Dr Lovey Wee is gonna bring you through a journey to look at the word Hurt from a different light by reading it back to front. This will help couples build stronger and more loving and appreciative realationships.
H- Humiliated
I feel humiliated when he/she says certain thing or act differently. Its terrible, why is he/she like that, i just don't understand. It hurts my pride and ego.
U- Unreasonable
How can he/she be impossible, come on i already did what i could to sustain this relationship but he's/she's still like that
R - Reactive
This is too much how can he/she say such thing, thats not the way. He/She should not have mention it in the first place
T - Tempermental
He/She is just too sensitive, thats not what i meant but he/she reads it that way what can i do. I think my tone is alright. He/She is overreacting
Isnt it true many times thats how we react to the situation and HURT our partners. Insteading our focusing on those words that will affect our relationships with one another. Why don't we turn the word around and read it from back to front - this is how it goes.
T- Tenderness
Show tender loving care to our partners
R - Respond
Instead of reacting to whatever he/she says, why don't we respond and try to listen to what his/her heart is saying. Sometimes whatever that comes out from his/her mouth might not be what he/she actually means.
U - Understanding
Try to be more understanding towards him/her. No one wants to be difficult and destroy a relationship. When we try to understand his/her better it will definately help strengthen the relationship
H - Humility
Exercise humility all the time, esteeming each other higher than yourselves and putting each other before yourself this will definately bring the relationship far. Many of times is because we want our rights that causes us to affect our partners.
We just turn HURT to TRUH and we add a T (representing Christ) TRUTH - When we have Christ in the picture everything else changes.
When we have the TRUTH, it will set us free all the difficulties, conflicts and struggles in a relationship.
Lets stop HURTING and start demostrating the TRUTH in our lives so as to glorify God in our relationships with our partners.
Often than not we face conflicts in our relationships with our partners because we feel hurt.
Today Dr Lovey Wee is gonna bring you through a journey to look at the word Hurt from a different light by reading it back to front. This will help couples build stronger and more loving and appreciative realationships.
H- Humiliated
I feel humiliated when he/she says certain thing or act differently. Its terrible, why is he/she like that, i just don't understand. It hurts my pride and ego.
U- Unreasonable
How can he/she be impossible, come on i already did what i could to sustain this relationship but he's/she's still like that
R - Reactive
This is too much how can he/she say such thing, thats not the way. He/She should not have mention it in the first place
T - Tempermental
He/She is just too sensitive, thats not what i meant but he/she reads it that way what can i do. I think my tone is alright. He/She is overreacting
Isnt it true many times thats how we react to the situation and HURT our partners. Insteading our focusing on those words that will affect our relationships with one another. Why don't we turn the word around and read it from back to front - this is how it goes.
T- Tenderness
Show tender loving care to our partners
R - Respond
Instead of reacting to whatever he/she says, why don't we respond and try to listen to what his/her heart is saying. Sometimes whatever that comes out from his/her mouth might not be what he/she actually means.
U - Understanding
Try to be more understanding towards him/her. No one wants to be difficult and destroy a relationship. When we try to understand his/her better it will definately help strengthen the relationship
H - Humility
Exercise humility all the time, esteeming each other higher than yourselves and putting each other before yourself this will definately bring the relationship far. Many of times is because we want our rights that causes us to affect our partners.
We just turn HURT to TRUH and we add a T (representing Christ) TRUTH - When we have Christ in the picture everything else changes.
When we have the TRUTH, it will set us free all the difficulties, conflicts and struggles in a relationship.
Lets stop HURTING and start demostrating the TRUTH in our lives so as to glorify God in our relationships with our partners.
i'm leaving at ;
6:44 PM;
6:44 PM;